Competitive partners may consciously or unconsciously encourage each other to go beyond the diet program and join the celebration of eating. Dieting is complex and difficult process that requires a comprehensive change in lifestyle and eating habits developed over many years. Sometimes, the danger to complete a diet and lose weight is actually from home.
Partner with competitive characteristics may sometimes, unconsciously, thwart the implementation of healthy eating habits. Spouse may stimulate you to take just one more small bite, try the new pie, ask you not to heart anyone who bothered and cooked for you and says more comments which will divert you from your diet plan. When your partner is cooking and preparation foods and desserts high in fat and carbs’ just so “the food will be tasty”, exactly when you are on a diet, may be a way that harms your honest attempts to lose weight.
Hurting your diet attempts by your partner is not a result of malicious planning, but part of natural behavior. If your partner is not comfortable with his body and frustrated from his failures to lose weight, he may feel threatened by your sudden change and your healthy eating habits. Others may fear that you losing weight and looking good will make you attractive and create unwanted competition. Your partner may prefer you hidden under layers of weight, but his.
Diet may be a source of tension in the opposite direction. Spouses may develop a negative model, one will become a patron or a cop, criticizing you and pushing you out of your diet rules. You may respond in a childish way and will find more excuses and lies to eat more, or even start eating in secret. When children are in the picture, the sensitivity is greater. The price of failure in the diet and the formation of unnecessary tension between parents may be very tough for kids. It is therefore important to treat children as full partners in the family’s decision on the new lifestyle, include them in the conversation and to let them set their expectations.
Our recommendation is that you and your partner will talk about your diet, your expectations from him during this weight loss process. Let him know how much you need his support, but explain how far he can go supervising you.
The best diet is the one in the background, not becoming a major issue in the house. Healthy eating habits are not a temporary thing for several weeks or months, but a new way of life, and so it is important to plan and implement them properly.